A Scottsdale child custody attorney provides assistance to parents with all aspects of the divorce process. Many parents worry about the impact of a divorce on a child, but you can make the process easier for your kids by ensuring that you follow best practices for divorce. This includes things like not badmouthing the child’s other parent and trying to avoid involving your children in contentious custody litigation. With help from Singer Pistiner, P.C., you will hopefully be able to create a parenting plan that doesn’t even necessitate going to court and that works best to provide security and stability for your children.
Singer Pistiner, P.C. has extensive experience with the process of helping parents through a divorce and we can put our legal knowledge to work to help make divorce easier on your children and family. Give us a call today to find out about the ways in which we will work to make sure your divorce has the minimal impact possible on your child’s life.
You should also ensure that you do your research to make smart choices about what you tell your children about the divorce process so you don’t leave your kids confused but so you also do not inundate them with information that they are too young to absorb and process.
What Should You Tell Your Children About Your Divorce?
What you should tell your children about your divorce will vary based on how old your children are and how mature your children are. Today’s Parent has some advice for those who are divorcing and who want to know how to talk with their kids about the marriage coming to an end.
- For children under age 5, the explanation about the divorce should be simple and child-focused. Kids only need to be told that the parents won’t live together any more and should be told where they will live, who will care for them, and how frequently they will see the other parent. Multiple short talks in which parents answer questions are ideal.
- For children between the ages of 6 and 11, they have a broader view of the world around them than younger kids. School aged children also may fantasize more about their parents reconciling and may think they could impact the possibility of their parents getting back together. Parents are advised to indirectly approach the topic, saying something like “some kids feel sad when their parents divorce,” instead of asking if the child is sad.
- Children ages 11 to 14 have a greater ability to understand the issues related to divorce. Parents should keep the lines of communication open with children at this age and should be watchful for signs that their kids may be developing emotional problems which they are not discussing. Children may try to test parents to see if they really care about them, so it is important for parents to try to assure children they will always be there for them.
Parents, no matter how old their kids are, should also not badmouth each other, should not use the kids as go-betweens to get information about the other parent, should not pass blame for the divorce to one parent or the other, and should make sure they try to avoid putting their kids in a situation where they feel as though they must choose between the parents. Compromising on custody can be very helpful so kids don’t feel caught in the middle.
Getting Help from A Scottsdale Child Custody Attorney
The most important thing that you can do for your child as your marriage comes to an end is to make certain that your children have a custody arrangement in place that meets their needs. Working with the child’s other parent to compromise on custody can be a good solution to creating a custody plan that makes sense given the child’s relationship with both parents and the structure of your family. You should also talk with an experienced attorney if you cannot come to a compromise on parenting time, as your attorney can represent you in court if a custody battle becomes necessary.
Singer Pistiner, P.C. helps parents both inside of court and out of court to argue for the best custody arrangement for their children. To find out more about how a Scottsdale child custody attorney helps parents with custody issues related to their kids, download our free divorce guide. You can also give us a call at 602-264-0440 or contact us online to get personalized advice on all child custody matters.